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From You I Receive

Rev. Kristin Schmidt with Mary Muehlbach

9:30 and 11:15 a.m.

This week in worship our Pastoral Associates will help us reflect on what it means to be fully present with one another and how giving and receiving the experience of feeling truly heard can transform us as individuals and a community.

Special Events

  • Holiday Fair (Part 1)
    • 12-04-2016
    • Join us for a Holiday Fair and fundraiser with new or lightly used Christmas and Hanukkah decorations, handicrafts, food gifts, stocking stuffers, other gift-worthy items, and a silent auction of events or experiences hosted by church members...
  • Awakening Wisdom Workshop: Sacred Ecstatic Music (with Rabbi Tsvi)
    • 12-10-2016
    • A Personal Path to the Heart through Sacred Ecstatic Music   Following Rabbi Tsvi’s (pronounced SVEE) wonderful Personal Theology talk at UUCB, many participants asked that the Rabbi conduct a longer workshop focused on the sacred experiences he guided participants through at Personal Theology.   That workshop is scheduled for Saturday, December 10, 2016, at 2:30 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. in the Fireside room at UUCB.  Donation to Rabbi Tsvi and UUCB is $35.00.  Wear...
  • Answering the Big Questions
    • 12-10-2016
    • Struggling with finding right-sized answers to your kids' big questions about the country right now? Join Reverends Kristin and Christian for a conversation on how to talk with children about the aftermath of this year's election.
  • Sing-Along Messiah
    • 12-18-2016
    • Come, join the fun, ring in the holidays with great music! We'll have a professional orchestra and soloists and the entire audience joins in singing Handel's fantastic choruses...
  • Christmas Eve - Family Service
    • 12-24-2016
    • Contact:  Lissa Roos Parker, scheduling coordinator (510) 525-0302, ext 312, lissamarda@uucb.org
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UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of BerkeleySaturday, December 3rd, 2016 at 7:17am
“How Might We Build a More Empathic Culture?” this Sunday, December 4, at 9:30 am in the Fireside Room. Edwin Rutsch is the founding director of the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy and the founder of the International Empathy Trainers Association. The center’s website, www.CultureOfEmpathy.com, is the internet’s most comprehensive portal for empathy-related material, including interviews with over 300 experts on the topic. He is a world traveler, a “seeker,” a documentary filmmaker and has worked in the computer technology field. In his travels, he has interacted with a wide variety of cultures and peoples from all walks of life and learned to see and feel the common humanity of all people on the planet.
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of Berkeley
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of Berkeley shared Center for Building a Culture of Empathy and Compassion's event.Wednesday, November 30th, 2016 at 12:48pm
Personal Theology, Sunday December 4, 9:30am.

"How might we bridge the social divides in our country and the world?"
Edwin Rutsch, Center for Building a Culture of Empathy and Compassion, @EmpathyCenter
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of Berkeley
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of BerkeleyMonday, November 28th, 2016 at 12:07pm
"The river is flowing and we cannot cling to the shore." Drawing wisdom from the words of a Hopi elder, UUCB Family Ministry Assistant Amanda Weatherspoon's sermon calls on us to Focus, Fortify and Fight.
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of Berkeley
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of BerkeleySunday, November 27th, 2016 at 1:15pm
How to Survive the Holidays in a Polarized Country

The Election has happened. You've been glued to your favorite sources of information and all the feelings, protests, and analyses are swirling around inside of you. It’s been rough. Then, to top it all off, you find out that Uncle Frank’s going to be at upcoming family holiday dinners. Images of fast and furious arguments with him fly through your head.

Not how you want to spend your holidays.

So what can you do?

Instead of calling up your sister and saying you've decided to skip the holidays this year, try out some empathy for yourself and for Uncle Frank. By empathy, I mean paying attention to your own feelings and values (self-empathy) or other people’s feelings and values (empathy for the other). You feel the way you feel because of things that matter to you. And so does Uncle Frank.

Self-Empathy. It's really hard to have empathy for someone who was on “the other side” of the Election when we ourselves are angry or scared or hurting. So it can help to start off by letting ourselves feel our feelings and recognizing the values they reflect.

Are you angry because you believe in the dignity and worth of all people and want everyone to be treated accordingly? Are you scared because you want to know that your friends and loved ones will be safe? Are you feeling heartbroken because you care about the earth staying healthy for your children and grandchildren?

When we empathize with ourselves -- understanding our own feelings and what matters to us -- we have a much easier time engaging with people who see the world differently. We’re also more likely to connect with their humanity.

Empathy for the Other. It may be that self-empathy is as far as you'll want -- or be able -- to go. If Uncle Frank is someone who is likely to bring up the topic of the Election, you may want to prepare ahead of time and practice saying, "I'm still having a hard time with the results of the Election and would rather not talk about it" -- then change the subject.

If you're ready to talk about the Election, it may help to remember that when people have the sense that they're being attacked, they get more rigid and hold onto their ideas more firmly. See if you can shift your focus. Try to identify what Uncle Frank is feeling and what's important to him. In other words, empathize with him.

Is he satisfied about the Election results because he wants a voice, or to matter, or to be seen as a worthwhile human being? Is he relieved and hopeful because he thinks he will now have purposeful, meaningful work and will be able to support his family?

Understanding where Uncle Frank is coming from might help you see him less as an enemy and more as an ally. He also might have less of an adversarial attitude. You might even find out that you care about some of the same things.

Whether you generally like Uncle Frank or not, you might enjoy the holidays a whole lot more if you try to understand what's important to him. Maybe your respect for each other will grow. And you might even end up grateful that he’s your uncle.

Lovingly posted by Social Justice Council member, Julie Rogers.

For more information about empathy, go to baynvc.org or cnvc.org.
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of Berkeley
UUCB - Unitarian Universalist Church of BerkeleySunday, November 27th, 2016 at 6:45am
Join us the Sunday after Thanksgiving as Amanda Weatherspoon concludes our sermon series on the theme of covenant. Amanda is a student at Starr King School for the Ministry, serves this congregation as our Family Ministries Assistant, and will be returning from a trip to Standing Rock just days before taking the pulpit.https://www.uua.org/worship/words/homily/reflections-standing-rock